I was asked on another bb on the net what I learned in 2008. This was my reply.
This year has been about allowing others to help me. My extreme reno project started in April and is still going on but we can now see the end.
I was in a very dark place emotionally in April. My house was trumping me. Things were going wrong faster than I could fix them. I didn't have the funds to make my place attractive. I spent all I had fixing. I wasn't keeping up. My moral was on its way down.
Today, with the house safer and attractive, I feel so different. In control of my situation would put it best. Rather than buried.
But I recieved so much more than a sound house. I learned to accept and say thank-you. I learned not all favors come as a loan. I learned to allow more people into my life. I learned to allow folks to help me simply because they wanted to.
Giving is easy and I love doing it. Accepting is a massive thing to learn when you are tremendously independent, extremely sensitive and don't want to burden anyone. And maybe just a little stubborn as well...
I always saw allowing others to help was a sign of the givers being taken advantage of. I suppose that can be true and I know a few that fit that description. I disliked what I saw and fought to never go there. But for those with truely good hearts and intents, it's not like that. Now I get it.
My lesson for 2008? We are worth caring about. ALL of us. Let someone care about and help you if they desire. You'll benefit in ways you can't imagine.
And, God does answer prayer. Count on it.
So, what did you learn in 2008? I'd love you to share if you're up to it!